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Learning The Signs Of Bullying

SAFE, Inc. Parent University reaches parents at Connolly 

SAFE, Inc’s Glen Cove PRIDE Project Coalition is dedicated to eliminating alcohol and substance abuse in the Glen Cove Community. The Coalition’s Parent Committee developed a Parent University Series in response to a survey given during all ‘Open School Nights’ in the Glen Cove School District to determine parental interest, and in response to the January 2012 Bach Harrison Prevention Needs Assessment Survey provided by SAFE, Inc. and administered by the Glen cove School District to grades 6, 8, 10 and 12.

 

The latest SAFE, Inc. Parent University was led by Glen Cove Police Sgt. Christopher Ortiz, Ph.D. at Connolly Elementary School on March 19. His topic – “Bullying and the Legal Consequences,” offered explanations on why bullying is a problem for some children and ideas on how parents and caregivers can play a role in preventing bullying. 

 

“This is an important topic that hits home for us,” said PTA Co-chair Donna Christ. “We are thankful that SAFE is here for the presentation.”

 

Bulling is not only an issue in Glen Cove. Nationwide children are bullied and schools and parents struggle to end what is unfortunately something that does not have many legal consequences. “We are law enforcement and are guided by laws,” said Ortiz. “We can only go so far.”

 

Ortiz explained what bullying is saying that there are many forms and the Internet has added a “new wrinkle” to bullying. “Bullying can come in the form of threats, rumors or physical acts,” Ortiz said. “Bullying is not a normal childhood activity. Victimization should not be a part of any child’s life.”

 

When does rough playing cross the line and blossom into bullying? “The intent needs to be there and there must be multiple incidents of aggression,” Ortiz explained. “Forms of bullying include physical actions like pushing, verbal which is a lot harder to pick up on, and relational behaviors designed to harm reputations and relationships like rumors, online images and social isolation.”

 

According to Ortiz’s statistics – 20 percent of high school students reported being bullied on school property and 28 percent of students from 12-18 years old were bullied during the 2010-2011 school year nationally. 

 

“And two out of three bullying events ago unreported,” he said. “Children tell their parents but not their teachers. 

Ortiz said that the consequences of being bullied are big. Children who are bullied have lower self-esteem, are lonely, have greater anxiety and are more depressed than their peers. “Bullying is not a simple childhood act,” said Ortiz. “It’s important that we act and intervene.”

 

He said that parents should be on the lookout for the following signs of bullying: if a child says they are being teased, threatened or tormented; if a child comes home with bruises or injuries; if a child’s property is taken away or damaged; if they have few or no close friends at school; if a child has a derogatory nickname; if a child refuses to go to school or does not want to participate in school activities and if a child is not assertive. 

 

What do you do? Ortiz said it is all about communication at home and then further action should be taken. “Contact school officials, police if you believe there is criminal action involved, but don’t confront the other child’s parents directly,” he said. “I’ve seen an incident in school turn into an assault after school and then an arrest. Don’t encourage your child to fight back because it may get worse and they may become a bully.”

 

Ortiz concluded by saying that the Glen Cove Police Department is there to help parents if they need it regarding bullying. He encouraged parents to be proactive. 

 

For further information on any SAFE, Inc. PRIDE Project Coalition and their initiatives contact Coalition Coordinator Aimee Abraham at 676-2008. SAFE Inc. is a not for profit tax exempt substance abuse education and prevention agency located in Glen Cove. Visit www.safeglencove.org and www.facebook.com/GlenCovePrideCoalition.


News

It was a country flavor at Sea Cliff Beach on the evening of Sunday, Sept. 14 as the alternative/country group Antigone Rising played in front of hundreds of local residents underneath the fading sunlight. The concert, which was originally slated for Saturday but rescheduled due to inclement weather, went off without 

a hitch as the ladies played a lot of their popular songs from different records. 

A drive down Prospect Avenue now reveals a hidden gem across from Tappan Beach, thanks to a project that took a decade and a half to come to fruition, and only eight months to complete. Scudder’s Pond, once hidden from the road behind tall phragmites, is not only visible, but much cleaner.

Plus, it's a significant step toward purifying the water in Hempstead Harbor. 

 

The $2.6 million project that involved dredging the pond for the first time in 30 years, installing a storm basin device and removing invasive non-native plants, all to combat problems from one of the largest sources of harbor contamination.


Sports

Glen Cove Junior Soccer got off on the right foot with its annual parade through the city ending at City Stadium on Saturday, Sept. 13. The parade had boys and girls from kindergarten to 10th grade march along with coaches and parents in their colorful uniforms. At the parade terminus, Glen Cove elected officials cheered the children on as they sat down on the field lines to hear the opening comments.

Hundreds of supporters turned out on Monday, Sept. 8 to golf, socialize with friends and dine beach-side at the 25th anniversary of SCO Family 

 of Services’ Howard F. Treiber Memorial Golf Open, SCO’s major fall fundraiser benefiting the 60,000 children, teens, adults and families served each year. The event began with brunch and shotgun tee offs at Meadow Brook Club in Jericho and The Creek Club in Locust Valley and concluded with dinner beach-side at The Creek. 


Calendar

Live Music - September 24

Whiskey Tasting - September 25

Play Bingo - September 26


Columns

1959: The Year The Music Stopped Playing
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