Most of us kind and good human beings are just "One Remark" away from losing the friendship and love of our favorite relatives, longtime pals and/or devoted acquaintances.

It is a rather silly situation that a heated political, sports or any other discussion can cause a lifetime rift in a lifelong relationship. Most of those "discussions" are minefields and should be traversed in the most delicate of fashions. One wrong step or word and "Ka Boom," it is all over.

Too many issues have presented themselves as "Either you are with me or you are against me." "You are on my side of the issue or you are the enemy."

The entrance into these situations is a very slow and insidious process.

The Scenario:

* A topic is chosen

* A point of view is expressed

* An opposing point of view is gently expressed

* A bit of verbal dueling and dancing about the subject

* Someone drops a bomb by either hardening his/her position or expressing a nasty word about the opposition.

* Silence fills the room

* Both parties ask for their hats and coats

* No more friendly weekly phone calls and no more invitations to dinner. The "Silent War" has begun.

Many times the originator of the squabble wanted to slightly dig or kibitz his friend just a wee bit, but he/she goes a tad too far. The "One Remark" is uttered and there is no chance of turning back. "Everybody to the lifeboats!"

We are in perilous times!

The high gas prices, the war in Iraq, the issue of abortion all are tinderboxes waiting for the spark to inflame and start a forest fire.

As in the military strategy, sometimes it is wise to begin a tactical withdrawal from the fray. Remember the old saying: "Don't Dismiss Anybody!" Even someone who disagrees with you may someday help you or your family.

It is not worth losing a friend or close relative by making that "One Remark."